REALLIFE STUDY GROUP

“Christmas Salvage”

ICEBREAKER: What was your favorite part of Christmas this year?

OUTLINE: Survival Personality Profiles

1. The Dependent gives up personal responsibility in many areas of life and uses helplessness to get support form others and becomes a powerful means of controlling and manipulating others.

2. The Pleaser has the motto Peace at any price. By constant compliance with the wishes or desires of others, this individual pays a high price for approval and acceptance, losing a great deal of personal identity.

3. The Fixer has low self-worth and attempts to fix it by becoming responsible for and fixing others. Fixers are seen as very loving, self-sacrificing and spiritual, but often seriously avoid addressing their own needs and issues.

4. The Performer appears highly competent and seems to have it all together. A perfect performance for every act is the performer’s unattainable goal. This style is inwardly paralyzed by the fear of being found to have inadequacies.

5. The Controller feels secure only when in control. The controller usually thinks he/she is right. A fear of vulnerability is what makes this wounded lamb act like a lion.

6. The Martyr is a great and constant sufferer and controls others by continuing to elicit compassion for a childhood sacrificed to devastating abuse and/or neglect.

TEXT: Mark 2:22

STUDY GROUP QUESTIONS:

1. Which of the survival personality styles most closely represent you growing up or before accepting Christ?

a. The Dependent

 b. The Pleaser

 c. The Fixer

d. The Performer

e. The Controller

f. The Martyr

2. Identify a situation or a time that you feel like Jesus allowed your life to be shaken up but you ended up landing on your feet?

3. In what areas of your life do you presently feel like God is stretching you?

a. Faith to trust God for your finances

b. Peace to believe that everything is going to work out in your relationships

c. Joy in the midst of the trials

d.___________________________

4. In what phase of the wine skin process would you say that you are in right now?

 a. The cutting away of flesh and personal desires

b. The tanning over the fires of adversity

 c. The ripping, tearing and sowing together

d. The joy of the Infilling of wine

e. The fermenting process that causes stretching to occur

f. Waiting to be poured out

5. If you had to identify an old wine skin or mindset that used to be a pattern in your life what would it be?

a. The wineskin of worry

b. The wineskin of doubt

c. The wineskin of sorrow

 d. The wineskin of self-pity

e. The wineskin of uncontrolled anger

f.  _______________________________________

6. What new wineskin (Attitude, Perception, Habit, Paradigm etc) do you need to allow God to develop in you?

The wineskin of absolute blind faith

b. The wineskin of willingness to try new things

c. The wineskin of total obedience

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If you needed to set a boundary in your life in order to come out of victim or negative thinking what would it be?

7. I believe Jesus came to turn the world upside down, inside out, and then right-side up. To me inside out means that he wants to address our hidden internal motives, memories and mindsets. Why is it so hard to give God access to those parts of us?