All information below is taken as excerpts from Tim LaHaye’s book Why You Act the Way You Do pp. 26-31, published by Living Books a registered trademark of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. 1984.
MEET SPARKY SANGUINE
“Sparky Sanguine is a warm, buoyant, lively, and “enjoying” person. Receptive by nature, external impressions easily find their way to his heart, where they cause an outburst of response. Feelings rather than reflective thoughts predominate to form his decisions. Sparky is so outgoing he is usually considered a super-extrovert.
Mr. Sanguine has an unusual capacity for enjoying himself and usually passes on his fun-loving spirit. The moment he enters a room he tends to lift the spirits of everyone present by his exuberant conversation. He is a fascinating storyteller and his warm, emotional nature almost helps you relive the experience as he tells it.
Mr. Sanguine never lacks for friends. He can genuinely feel the joys and sorrows of the person he meets and has the capacity to make him feel important, as though he were a very special friend—and he is, as long as he is looking at you. Then he fixes his eyes with equal intensity on the next person he meets.
The Apostle Peter in the Bible was much like Sparky Sanguine. Every time he appeared in the Gospels he was talking. In fact, I read through the Gospels one time to verify my suspicion and found that Simon Peter talked more than all the other disciples put together. That is typical for Sparky. As my sanguine minister friend Ken Poure says, ‘A sanguine always enters a room mouth first.’ His noisy, blustering, friendly ways make him appear more confident than he really is, but his energy and lovable disposition get him by the rough spots of life. People have a way of excusing his weaknesses by saying, ‘That’s just the way he is.’”
MEET ROCKY CHOLERIC
“Rocky Choleric is hot, quick, active, practical, strong-willed, self-sufficient, and very independent. He tends to be decisive and opinionated, finding it easy to make decisions both for himself and other people. Like Sparky Sanguine, Rocky Choleric is an extrovert, but is not nearly so intense.
Mr. Choleric thrives on activity. He does not need to be stimulated by his environment, but rather stimulates his environment with his endless ideas, plans, goals, and ambitions. He does not engage in aimless ideas, plans, goals, and ambitions. He does not engage in aimless activity, for he has a practical, keen mind, capable of making sound, instant decisions or planning worthwhile projects. He does not vacillate under the pressure of what others think, but takes a definite stand on issues and can often be found crusading against some social injustice or subversive situation. Rocky is not frightened by adversities; in fact, they tend to encourage him. His dogged determination usually allows him to succeed where others have failed.
Mr. Choleric’s emotional nature is the least developed part of his temperament. He does not sympathize easily with others, nor does he naturally show or express compassion. He is often embarrasses or disgusted by the tears of others and is usually insensitive to their needs. He reflects little appreciation for music and the fine arts, unless his secondary temperament traits are those of the melancholy. He invariably seeks utilitarian and productive values in life. Not given to analysis, but rather to quick, almost intuitive appraisal, the choleric tends to look at the goal for which he is working without recognizing the potential pitfalls and obstacles in the path. Once he has started toward his goal, he may run roughshod over individuals who stand in his way. He tends to be domineering and bossy and does not hesitate to use people to accomplish his ends. He is often considered an opportunist.”
MEET MARTIN
MELANCHOLY
“Martin Melancholy is the richest of all the temperaments. He is an analytical, self-sacrificing, gifted, perfectionist type with a very sensitive emotional nature. No one gets more enjoyment from the fine arts than the melancholy. By nature, he is prone to be an introvert; but since his feelings predominate, he is given to a variety of moods. Sometimes they will life him to heights of ecstasy that cause him to act more extroverted. However, at other times he will be gloomy and depressed, and during these periods he becomes withdrawn and can be quite antagonistic.
Martin is a very faithful friend, but unlike the sanguine, he does not make friends easily. He seldom pushes himself forward to meet people, but rather lets them come to him. He is perhaps the most dependable of all the temperaments, for his perfectionist and conscientious tendencies do not permit him to be a shirker or let other down when they are counting on him. His reticence to put himself forward is often taken as an indication that he doesn’t enjoy people. Like the rest of us, he not only likes others but has a strong desire to be loved by them but finds it difficult to express his true feelings. Disappointing experiences make him reluctant to take people at face value; thus he is prone to be suspicious when other seek him out or shower him with attention.
His exceptional analytical ability causes him to diagnose accurately the obstacles and dangers of any project he has a part in planning. This is in sharp contrast to the choleric, who rarely anticipates problems or difficulties, but is confident he can cope with whatever crises may arise. Such a characteristic often finds the melancholy reticent to initiate some new project or in conflict with those who wish to do so. Occasionally, in a mood of emotional ecstasy or inspiration, he may produce some great work of art or genius. But these accomplishments are often followed by periods of great depression.
Martin
Melancholy usually finds his greatest meaning in life through personal
sacrifice. He seems desirous of making
himself suffer, and he will often choose a difficult life vocation involving
great personal sacrifice. But once it is
chosen, he is prone to be very thorough and persistent in his pursuit of it and
more than likely will accomplish great good if his natural tendency to gripe
throughout the sacrificial process doesn’t get him so depressed that he gives
up on it altogether. No temperament has
so much natural potential when energized by the Holy Spirit as the melancholy.
MEET PHILIP
PHLEGMATIC
“Philip Phlegmatic is the calm, easygoing, never-get-upset individual with such a high boiling point that he almost never becomes angry. He is the easiest type of person to get along with and is by nature the most likeable of all the temperaments.
Philip Phlegmatic derives his name from what Hippocrates thought was the body fluid that produced that “calm, cool, slow, well-balanced temperament.” Life for him is a happy, unexcited, pleasant experience in which he avoids as much involvement as possible. He is so calm and unruffled that he never seems agitated, no matter what circumstances surround him. He is the one temperament type that is consistent every time you see him. Beneath his cool, reticent, almost timid personality, Mr. Phlegmatic has a very capable combination of abilities. He feels more emotion than appears on the surface and appreciates the fine arts and the beautiful things of life. Usually he avoids violence.
The phlegmatic does not lack for friends, because he enjoys people and has a natural dry sense of humor. He is the type of individual who can have a crowd of people “in stitches,” yet never cracks a smile. Possessing the unique capability for seeing something humorous in others and the things they do, he maintains a positive approach to life. He has a good, retentive mind and is capable of being a fine imitator.
Phil Phlegmatic tends to be a spectator in life and tries not to get very involved with the activities of others. In fact, it is usually with great reluctance that he is ever motivated to any form of activity beyond his daily routine. This does not mean, however, that he cannot appreciate the need for action and the predicaments of others. He and Rocky Choleric may confront the same social injustice, but their responses will be entirely different. The crusading spirit of the choleric will cause him to explain, “Let’s get a committee organized and campaign to do something about this!” The phlegmatic would likely respond, “These conditions are terrible! Why doesn’t someone do something about them?” Usually kind-hearted and sympathetic, Phil Phlegmatic seldom conveys his true feelings. When once aroused to action, however, his capable and efficient qualities become apparent. He will not volunteer to leadership on his own, but when it I forced upon him, he proves to be a very capable leader. He has a conciliating effect on others and is a natural peacemaker.
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